By Krystal Xavier
Today we are going to teach you how to deal with those annoying haters. Yes many of us have them, but how do you deal with them? Should you just go around and cuss them out? Maybe you should block them or delete them off your facebook.
Regardless of what the ordeal is we have a few tips on how to deal with them haters.
First of all you have to know the definition of a hater. ehow defines a hater as “A person whose jealousy of another person success or achievements makes them verbally nit-pick any flaws no matter how small or just make up flaws in order to somehow try and belittle the successful person.”
Now when it comes to the hating it IS YOUR fault. Now you may ask why? Well because you are the business, the shiznit, in better terms you are fabulous, ok you get my drift. These haters appear because these people are jealous of you, they can hate on you for so many different things…. accomplishments, beauty, youth, experience, maybe they are threatened by you, wether it’s at work or play. These haters usually have low self-esteem, and or are just angry bitter people who hate to feel better about themselves.
Example: Kim Kardashian is extremely successful, and also beautiful but she is also one of the most hated on woman in the entertainment industry. People always seem to bash the girl, but yet she keeps on rolling in the dough. D list celebrities who bash her, use her name to be put in the spotlight for example…. in a recent interview Jon Hamm called her “stupid.” My first question was who is he and why and how is he relevant? And then I thought, hater who wished he had her fame and fortune. I would name more people but I’m not in the business of giving haters free publicity. (you can read my other stories and see who I don’t write about)
So how do you deal with these sore losers? And yes and I am calling them losers because they are. For example I had a girl at another job who used to hate on my friend because she had a better body and a fine man. So one day I told the hater “boo if you stop eating like a beast and had a better attitude maybe you would meet a nice guy and lose some weight.” I wasn’t trying to be mean, but I got sick and tired of hearing her bitterness and hatefulness, some people need to be told they have an ugly attitude, so they can hopefully do something about it.
Now you can only imagine the end result, but it was the truth and she didn’t like it. So we no longer speak, and it’s not like I care because I only dealt with the hater because I worked with her.
Now I told the above story because you can’t talk a hater out of hating. Their own insecurities and inadequacies are so hard for them to face. Hate is the only way they can cope and go on with their lives. Very sad but true so stay away from these toxic people.
But you do have to accept that you have haters! Losers don’t have haters! So be proud of who you are, your accomplishments big or small. Don’t let these losers change you, or get to you. And definitely don’t hate back, remember like they say Karma is a b*tch and let me tell you I’ve seen her in action, so I made her best friend.
Now if you don’t have to deal with these haters, just delete them off your facebook, twitter or what ever social network is out there. You don’t have to explain yourself just post this article on your page then in a few days ‘DELETE’. I’m sure they will get it. I’ve done it a few times and let me tell you it’s refreshing!
What about if you have to work with them and/or they are on your facebook page. BLOCK them or just try and limit the contact you have with them, the less they know about your life the better so the BLOCKING feature is best. I block people all the time and I know they know but I really don’t care. And if you really have to deal with them, just keep it professional. DO NOT INVITE THEM OVER. DO NOT HANG OUT WITH THEM OR TELL THEM YOUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS THEY ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS! They are your haters!
One thing to remember is to keep on doing you, don’t let them get to you. But definitely build a support system of good friends and family that you can turn and talk to. Work on your mental health, you can write, draw, sing, workout so many different things you can do to let out your frustrations and negative inner feelings so they hater poison doesn’t affect you. Also feel free to speak up for yourself, and move on with your life and continue to love and not hate.
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